“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”- Proverbs 31:30
The perfect boy/girl; I’m sure that’s every young man/woman’s dream. Why is it that we have an innate desire to pursue relationships? Because God engineered us with a longing to be with another person. When God created Adam in the Garden of Eden, he knew that “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18), so he created Eve (not Steve LOLOLOL).
TBH this has been a topic which i’ve really been thinking about a lot recently; i don’t know why, but yeh just been on my mind a lot :P
I’ve never been in any relationships before because I was never really mature enough to handle one, and probably am not quite there yet either. It’s ridiculous how lightly people in the world take relationships; it’s almost like it’s socially acceptable to go through multiple boyfriends/girlfriends. I reckon it’s foolish and does leave behind a lot of scars/emotional damage. Someone once told me, that when you like someone and form an emotional bond with them, you give them a piece of your heart to keep. I know there was a technical name for this, but i forgot. But the point is, try not to give ur heart away to more than one person because it’s excruciatingly hard to get it back. There’ll be a perpetual void in your heart.
Btw, i’m no expert in this topic and i admit it, but I’m just expressing what’s on my heart :P
So what do you look for in a girl/boy?
Proverbs 31:30 pretty much sums up what wisdom would choose. So yeh this would be my list (in order):
#1: Loves/fears God (and equally yoked)
#2: Similar passions
#3: feel comfortable/can get along
#4: Physical appearance
Let’s not kid ourselves. it’s not that difficult to find a pretty girl/guy in the world we live in, but what’s so ridiculously rare is someone that genuinely loves Jesus and is spiritually mature. What the verse says is so true, beauty is fleeting (temporary), but someone who fears God is praiseworthy. it’s more rare/precious than silver or gold. btw I’m not saying it’s bad to be good looking, but it’s more important to be godly (good looking on the inside :P)
I’m reading this book called Boy Meets Girl at the moment. It’s really good for anyone that is interested. It paints a really conservative/cautious approach of how we should interact with people we like, but ultimately, is full of truth and wisdom that is for our own good. I’m only halfway through the book at the moment, but the crux of what i’ve picked up so far is: treat others like ur brother/sister, and seek to develop the friendship first. When you have that mindset, it really does completely transform the way you act and really does reflect the key values of the bible. It reduces the chance of us acting out of folly/immaturity, and does really provide you with a firm/wise foundation to pursue a godly relationship.
I’m gonna be honest that a lot of time I worry about life too much; about what course I’m gonna get into, and if I’m gonna get gains at the gym, and if I’m gonna find the right girl. Some might argue that I’ve got a reason to be worried, because relationships are actually ridiculously complicated. But hey, Jesus tells us in Jeremiah 29:11 that he has “plans for (us)”, and that he works all circumstances for our overall good (Romans 8:28). Stop worrying about when the right person/time will come, for God will open the door for you in his perfect timing. Let’s look at Proverbs 3:5-6:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight”
Let’s dissect it:
- Trust in God (that he will provide at the right time)
- Don’t be discouraged if you don’t understand why something happened. God doesn’t work using logic; he works beyond human comprehension
- Commit everything to him. Put him at the centre of your relationships/pursuit of it
- And everything will turn out fine in his perfect will
Yeh thanks guys ‘m gonna end the post now cause I’m really tired and want to sleep LOL. but yeh at the crux of it all, really put Christ in the centre of your life, and everything will fall into place haha!!
God bless u guys! remember to pray about it!